My attic is full of good advice - and who is the solution?

An article for all mums who have tried everything - and still have too much on their plate

„Neveld jobban a gyerekedet.”
"Be more consistent."
"Don't let your emotions lead you."

„Vidd el pszichológushoz, terápiára”

Ismerősen csengenek ezek a mondatok? Ha igen, valószínűleg te is azok közé az anyák közé tartozol, akik már számos dolgot, terápiát megpróbáltak, amit tanácsoltak nekik – mégis estére úgy érzed, hogy tele vagy csalódottsággal. Nem csak a türelmed, hanem te magad is lemerültél.

But what if the problem is not with you?

You're not the "oversensitive" one - you've just been overwhelmed for too long

When a child's behaviour is erratic, too intense or unusual, the mother often starts to blame herself.
Was I too lenient?
Or is it too strict?
Why is it only me that those "tried and tested methods" don't work?

Sometimes the answer is easier and harder than we would like:
not sure that you have to do better.
It may be that your child needs other support - or just you need a safe placewhere you can rest before you try to "get it right" again.

But I'm the mother - I should know what to do!

This phrase is the inner mantra of many mothers. Even if they are cannot sleep properly, no time to eat, or doesn't know the last time he took a deep breath.

Many people live in a situation where they already know almost everything about their child, en about their own needs. They don't know they are tired. That their nervous systems are on constant alert. That even though there is no diagnosis, they have long felt that something not like others. But you can't talk about it. Because if you say it, they might question your motherhood.

The body doesn't lie - it just needs to be watched, but when?

Lehet, hogy a gyerekednek nincsen orvosi, pszichiátriai diagnózisa. Lehet, hogy nem is ez a megoldás.
But you know that every day is differently tiring for youthan the others.
That for you, getting ready in the morning is a struggle, the evening routine is like a war.

And you in the meantime you are less and less present in your own body. Because someone else is always first.

But the first step is not to read another parenting advice book.
The first step could be to you return to yourself - a little bit.
With a small gesture. With a 5-minute pause. With a glass of water that you don't drink on the run.

Survival could be followed by "being good enough"

You don't have to be happy right away.
You don't have to write a gratitude journal or exercise or meditate right away.
Sometimes it's enough just to say to yourself:
"This is really a lot. And I have the right to be tired, to take a break."

From then on you can build. Focusing on the body. Slowly, allowing.

And if you want help with this - not just advice, but real support - it's worth going to a professional. Not because there's a "problem", but because you deserve a little attention too. As a human being. As a woman. As a mother.

Ha úgy érzed, ez rólad szól, és most végre te jönnél a sorban – írj nekem, vagy jelentkezz be telefonon +36 303547018.
I am not giving advice. I'm giving you space. And direction, if you need it. Stargazing programme.

Tedd meg az első lépést, nézzük meg fél órában, merre van az út? Legyen Áttörés az életedben.

Let's talk if you feel a call about the above!

+36303547018

I wish you a good day,
Titanilla

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