Help, I'm lost! Reality is Truth

You should also be able to ask for help

Asking for help is a sign of courage, of willpower. Often it is difficult because we are afraid that we will discover something that may be difficult to "digest". We may feel lost if some less beautiful memory or thought comes to us. Or we may simply fear that our power is greater than our environment has instilled in us. Often our greatest fear is not that we are small, but that we are big. That is, "What will people say?"

Instead of making examples, I call myself. How will Titanilla, for example, be seen if she uses different language than usual or if she writes about a completely different subject? 

Perhaps Titanilla should not be filled with doubt in such a case? It's likely that there must be something in her, even if she has changed a lot, changed a lot...

The maze of life - Being lost

Being lost these days is very easy, not a crime. Taking advantage of the current situation, many people are trying to use the 1TP5StayHome campaign for often insidious purposes. Often it is not a deliberate attempt to hijack, as the controllers themselves are just victims scrambling to survive.

What to look out for?

The important thing from your point of view is that you find your own way, and you find your way out with your helper, mentor or whatever. Everyone needs guidance, just at different levels. You can enrich your spiritual, mental and physical layers with knowledge, and you can become a guide yourself with the experience you have already gained. Until then, however, the blind lead the blind...

Hermetically sealed off, isolated, far from human reality, they flood you with different information - I know that - and it's hard to find your way. In addition, you are now full of uncertainty and find it difficult to make any kind of release. Believe me - and I speak from my own experience - that this is exactly the lesson of life that we are being taught now, and that we need to understand it spiritually and mentally. I have not stopped developing my personality either, because I know for sure that it will pay off.

Everybody has a real scenario, which is the truth, and when you get to the deep psychological level, it's a real breath of fresh air, it's like coming home physically, spiritually.

Let's go back to the original question of asking for help. For whom does it mean to ask for help? The answer will probably not be the same.
Just as no two life paths are the same, only similar. No two recipes are the same for a seemingly similar problem.

What is Titanilla talking about in riddles?
When the two white, nor the same white...

Behind every problem is another. My approach - like homeopathic practice - is not to give a "cure" for the symptoms, but to map out what might be causing the feeling or situation you are in.

For a long time I didn't know why I resisted the advice of marketers to do group training. Then, talking to a master teacher in Atlanta, I found out. I am incapable of charging money for something that is incomplete. What do I mean by that? Let's look at a concrete example:

X and Y are struggling with a career change, can't find their place, it's the same so far, isn't it?

Hr X and Y: their present feeling is that something is missing. Some they like, some they don't like within HR. They are trying to find where to go, what they can fulfil themselves in, what they can feel good about working on - yet they don't feel it is work. So far it's apparently the same story of X and Y. 

That's what I call the superficial, apparent problem, which can be survived with coaching tools for a period of time, even months. 

With X, we start talking, see exactly what's going on. What feelings and conflicts he has with himself, his relationships, his environment.
And lo and behold, X has a loving family who support him, but his parents have never supported him, leading to constant internal conflict. Because he was only a good boy if he did what his parents thought was right. Health-wise, he is doing quite well, although he is sad, and mentally he finds it difficult to cope with the daily routine at work. He's at a loss as to where to change, what to do to find a place where he's appreciated and listened to.

Now listen to the other HR story : Y has no children, no loving husband, no one to support her. Just a few friends, which is no substitute for family. In fact, Y is the one who tries to please everyone, to give and only give. Y is also in poor health and has mood swings. His job is commission-based, so he lives his days in insecurity. 

Is the same internal conflict playing out in all of them? NO!

It is true that they all feel lost, but that is only the surface, there are not equal burdens behind. Are they carrying the same burden when we weigh their problems? NO! Imagine the scales, count me in! 

All seemingly unimportant conflicts and problems will be put there, and count me in. Every problem is worth 1 kg. 

X: my parents have never understood me and have never supported me emotionally, they are not fully reconciled with my marriage, they often try to interfere in our lives - 4 kg. 

Y: My parents made me work from a young age, from my teenage years. I lived in a draconian strictness, my parents and my environment had high expectations of me, and even left me to raise my brother as a teenager. I was financially independent, and from the age of 18 I was also responsible for my sister's education - 7kg.

Not everyone carries the same size of bag, and we haven't even counted how many years X or Y has been carrying X or Y. It wouldn't make any difference to you whether you carry something 100 metres or 1km. That's why it's important to be careful when you feel lost in the jungle.
Many people are now at a loss as to which way to go, what to do with themselves, their business, their company, their employees, their children...

How I help

Consultations and conversations with me are like cleaning. After all, it's not only your house that needs to be cleaned, but also your mind, your feelings, your body, just like you clean your body every day.

When you clean your home, you get rid of dust, when you bathe, you rid your body of toxins, dirt?
Cleanse your heart and soul with love, wash away doubts, sorrows, worries, and then gently wipe them away, so that they shine brightly.

Nature is also rewarded when raindrops are washed, irrigated, almost given new life by the sun, water and the earth's nutrients. You need fertile soil for you too. A sense of renewal will fill your heart and you will think of yourself with love.

Some theoretical confirmation

Going back to the 2 HR people, they know that a restaurant is a place where you feel comfortable if not only the food but also the staff are pleasant, humble and attentive.

"The way a restaurant manager talks and behaves with restaurant staff, cleaning staff and others is a reflection of a person's basic nature."

1. According to Bruce Lipton, it is now safe to say that neuroscience also states - although in most cases it tends to sweep it under the carpet - that because of our habits, our actions and feelings are controlled by the conscious mind in at best only 5 %, and the unconscious is responsible for 95%.
   He also said that we are ruled by our habits rather than our creative minds.

"How many times in our lives have we been upset about, for example, a toothpaste tube that has lost its cap? we have been taught since childhood to carefully screw the cap back on. Every time we encounter this omission, our brain boils, when in fact it is a response to unconscious, learned habits. We deeply store learned habits in our behavioral programming.
The feeling of being lost is that you are in a state of change, with one part of you trying to adapt to the old ways and the other part of you having doubts and uncertainty about the new.

I know how you feel

I myself have changed professions countless times. Currently, I have been drawn to a new field of science alongside my profession, which I am exploring with childlike curiosity. When I was doing career guidance or working on a selection project, I discovered that everything that appears to be is an illusion. Human dilemmas and doubts are not caused by what we see with the naked eye, but by what we do not see.

Explained by my biological knowledge, it's just like when the doctor says it's some kind of viral infection. Does he see the virus with the naked eye, does he talk to it? That he knows what it really is, how to deal with it? Pretty much what he comes up with is vitamins and symptom relieving antipyretics, even antibiotics in the worst cases.

Perhaps you have forgotten from your studies that in the case of illness, it is not only the physical but also the mental and spiritual factors that must be taken into account? The majority of doctors are only concerned with the physical symptoms, whereas they are sworn to take a holistic view of the person. Everybody has different things in store, which is why I believe that we need to have an individual exploration, because everybody has a different imprint in their mind, in their brain.

We are not the same

You're probably thinking of education, where everyone has to learn the same information at the same pace. But do all young and old learn at the same rate?

If you have a child, or a sibling you played with as a child, you may remember that you didn't complete an exercise in the same amount of time, or that someone always won during the game. Not because of skill, but because of individuality, character trait, personality development. It depends on who has stored what, who has been held back by what influences, or what they have reacted to psychologically.

The unconscious is a repository of instinctive and learned stimulus responses. Life journeys also hide different things, depending on what has already been experienced, what has been stored and what has not.

I have been to countless helpers, healers and even spiritualists in my life, I know what I am talking about. One told me, for example, that I was going to have a son, and then I have two daughters. A counsellor once said to me, no matter what you think or say, what I say is good, because I am more experienced.

Do you think I just got over it so easily?

No, I mean very superficially, but the weight of words is as heavy as physical abuse. Disappointment that I didn't become what I had stored up in my mind, that I was holding a mirror of others perhaps?

That is why, for the sake of experience, I try to choose my words and review my actions before I say or do anything.

What should you look out for if you are brave enough to ask for help?

Feelings of being lost are still vulnerable, so try to cut out the information that makes you feel more lost. For example, avoid scare stories, gossip, people who tell you things. No one is in your shoes, so my approach is to help those who guide you towards the truth that lies deep in your heart and soul.
Look for people who can put a smile on your face, who can make you feel recharged, whose words make you think in a positive way, because they inspire you, not influence you. Avoid those who seek to influence and manipulate you. Learn to look behind the words, to read between the lines.

That's impossible!", you say. I can tell you from experience that the more you know yourself, the more you will be able to make the right decisions, to see and not just look.

I wish you a pleasant journey of discovery, avoid the abysses, seek the light.

I wish you a good day,
Titanilla

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