Where I came from, where I'm going - duet version
Festive summary, or a gift under the Christmas tree: from me - for you
Zsuzsi: Titanilla and I were introduced by a mutual friend when I became an entrepreneur and was looking for a job. As a newbie in online marketing, I was entering a new field and soon found out that I had a lot to learn. I found it hard to live with failurethat I cannot give you what Titanilla wanted, what was in her head. But as fate would have it, for some reason we kept working and something unusual for me - a new kind of connection - developed. I couldn't tell at the time why things were happening, why she was sticking with me despite things going slower than expected, and why I wanted to discuss everything with her.
Soon it became clear that there were things I could learn from him, I wanted to understand who I amwhat I want to do in marketing and what makes me feel like my teeth are being pulled.
We have a "partnership", he helps me find my way and guides me, and I help with his online communication.
In the meantime, I found out the areas where I didn't feel comfortable, and I didn't even take the job for her (although it was a huge internal struggle, as I wanted to help Titanilla at all costs).
My: there is a situation in the lives of the helpers where they do not look at the financial side first. Because we feel we are dealing with the person. We may have some things in common, it may be that we have a case to solve. For example, like me: we have a weakness of impatience. I was more impatient at the moment we met, I wanted to see the miracle faster. I find it hard to bear when I foresee someone's solution, their goal, and they can't get there quickly, at the pace I imagine.
I was prompted by Zsuzsi to hold a self-reflectionwhy it annoys me when something is not done quickly and why it annoys me when something is not perfect. Perfectionism and impatience are not positive traits. We must learn to accept it. The year 2019 has been a real learning time for me in this area and progress is unstoppable. Through personal development, I have not only found my relationship with Zsuzsi, but as fate would have it, all my clients, friends, acquaintances, family - my relationships - all teach me patience and acceptance. I am also learning that nothing is ever perfect, the pursuit of perfection should not be overdone.
When I know where I'm going
Zsuzsi: That "damn" perfection, sometimes I can't move because what if...? What if what I do is not good enough? But as I had more and more acknowledgements and "conversations" with Titanilla, I became less and less afraid of her, so I "suddenly" had my own ideas, insights, even against the current fashion - if I felt that the interests of the client required. Because what is a general, evidential business model may not be right for a particular client at the time - it may even be too much for them. He wants to move smaller, but he wants online tools that work now. Why not enter the online arena with "just a service"? Then, from their experience and professional development, they can move on, or even into a "newer" area - as with Titanilla. I have to put the newer in quotes - because up until then it was there, it knew it, it was doing it, but it was not emphasised enough in the communication.
My: I feel that things are going quite well, Zsuzsi has developed a lot professionally, mentally and spiritually. Often I just need to tell her something on the phone, which I would write about in the blog, and she writes an article about it. It's easier for me to work from this, because I have the skeleton, and I can put my heart and soul into it.
I think that the We all have an infinite path, but we must strive to see as clearly as possible what our values are, what we do willingly and from the heart, and what we do only because of others, because that is what is expected of us..
It's exactly like deep diving - where you have to explore often terrifying depths; or an investigation to find out the truth, the truth.
And the punch line?! - but Titanilla, where am I going?
Zsuzsi: No punchline. Often I feel no progress, or very little. But then I'll take it out, almost instinctively, the "Titanilla method" (one of many:). I look back, from where, where did I come? And in how long? And then I feel that yes, it was worth it! Every single moment of it, and I'm proud of myself for not giving up somewhere. But I decided: what stays (task, work) and what goes. Surely there will be many more decision pointsbut I realized that easier with a helper see the situation and move on. Well even with two, three, four helpers!
So there is a punch line: if we want to improve, and we ask for help to do so, then something is starting to happen. I see that it works. As Titanilla says, we get rid of one energy-sapping but well-paying task, and almost immediately another task that suits us comes along.
Oh, and what's for us? - to work with, a lot 🙂
My: I see Zsuzsi as being better able to help people as a marketer precisely because of the personality development she goes through.
You learn best through your own experience. You can go and pay millions for theoretical training, but if it's not put into practice, it's not worth a damn.
I would add that almost everything with Zsuzsi was made up of online conversations because of the distance, so I feel this connection was very successful. Our journey isn't over yet, although I have it in my head what Zsuzsi is next, but she needs to experience it, just as we allow the child to fall and encourage the little tiptoe to get up and just keep going - I try to do the same with Zsuzsi.
I wish you a good day,
Titanilla
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