{"id":2966,"date":"2019-11-29T18:03:35","date_gmt":"2019-11-29T18:03:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/titanillaeideh.com\/?p=2966"},"modified":"2022-08-15T15:17:33","modified_gmt":"2022-08-15T15:17:33","slug":"the-importance-of-communication-in-our-lives","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/titanillaeideh.com\/en\/the-importance-of-communication-in-our-lives\/","title":{"rendered":"The importance of communication in our lives"},"content":{"rendered":"[et_pb_section fb_built=\"1\u2033 _builder_version=\"3.22\u2033 custom_margin=\"0px||0px\" custom_padding=\"0px||0px||\"][et_pb_row use_custom_gutter=\"on\" gutter_width=\"1\u2033 module_class=\" et_pb_row_fullwidth\" _builder_version=\"3.25\u2033 width=\"100%\" width_tablet=\"100%\" width_phone=\"\" width_last_edited=\"on|desktop\" max_width=\"100%\" max_width_tablet=\"100%\" max_width_phone=\"\" max_width_last_edited=\"on|desktop\" custom_padding=\"0|0px|27px|0px|false|false\" make_fullwidth=\"on\"][et_pb_column type=\"4_4\u2033 _builder_version=\"3.25\u2033 custom_padding=\"|||\" custom_padding__hover=\"|||\"][et_pb_post_title date=\"off\" comments=\"off\" featured_placement=\"background\" text_color=\"light\" _builder_version=\"3.29.3\u2033 title_font=\"||||||||\" title_font_size=\"50px\" title_line_height=\"1.6em\" meta_font=\"||||||||\" meta_font_size=\"25px\" meta_line_height=\"1.6em\" background_image=\"https:\/\/titanillaeideh.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/\u00f6r\u00f6kl\u00f6tt-mint\u00e1k1.jpg\" custom_margin=\"||\" custom_padding=\"150px||100px\" title_font_size_tablet=\"\" title_font_size_phone=\"36px\" title_font_size_last_edited=\"on|phone\" meta_font_size_tablet=\"\" meta_font_size_phone=\"20px\" meta_font_size_last_edited=\"on|desktop\" title_text_shadow_style=\"preset1\u2033][\/et_pb_post_title][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section fb_built=\"1\u2033 _builder_version=\"3.22\u2033 custom_margin=\"3px|||||\" custom_padding=\"4px||3px|||\"][et_pb_row module_class=\" et_pb_row_fullwidth\" _builder_version=\"3.25\u2033 width=\"89%\" width_tablet=\"80%\" width_phone=\"\" width_last_edited=\"on|desktop\" max_width=\"89%\" max_width_tablet=\"80%\" max_width_phone=\"\" max_width_last_edited=\"on|desktop\" make_fullwidth=\"on\"][et_pb_column type=\"4_4\u2033 _builder_version=\"3.25\u2033 custom_padding=\"|||\" custom_padding__hover=\"|||\"][et_pb_text _builder_version=\"4.0.6\u2033 text_font=\"||||||||\" quote_font=\"||||||||\"]

No one disputes the importance of communication in our lives, but I think we don't put enough emphasis on honing this skill. <\/span>
<\/span>Perhaps we would reflect a little if we knew that our communication has a big impact not only on our own lives, but also on the lives of our children, colleagues and the world around us. Specifically, by copying us parents as children. For good and for bad. Or by our immediate colleagues communicating with us as we communicate with them. <\/span>
<\/span>And where does our communication pattern come from? From our parents, of course, and then from our teachers, and so on through people who have had a big influence on us growing up.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Communication is a fundamental social\/societal phenomenon. We distinguish between verbal communication (e.g. verbal response) and non-verbal communication (such as body language).\u00a0<\/p>\n

It's the first skill we acquire as children. However, as we grow up, our communication - in a sense - unfortunately deteriorates: we can't find the right words: \"what\/how should I say?\", we are afraid to put our feelings into words: \"how should I tell you?\", for fear of generating controversy.\u00a0<\/p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=\"3_5,2_5\u2033 module_class=\" et_pb_row_fullwidth\" _builder_version=\"3.25\u2033 width=\"89%\" width_tablet=\"80%\" width_phone=\"\" width_last_edited=\"on|desktop\" max_width=\"89%\" max_width_tablet=\"80%\" max_width_phone=\"\" max_width_last_edited=\"on|desktop\" make_fullwidth=\"on\"][et_pb_column type=\"3_5\u2033 _builder_version=\"3.25\u2033 custom_padding=\"|||\" custom_padding__hover=\"|||\"][et_pb_text _builder_version=\"4.0.6\u2033 text_font=\"||||||||\" quote_font=\"||||||||\"]

For example, when I was at school, there was an unspoken expectation that as a teacher's kid, only a 4.5 was acceptable. From this expectation, how would I tell my parents if I got a lower grade?<\/span><\/p>\n

Scolding, teasing, humiliated words in front of the community - these are ingrained in our souls, in our memories like a fossilized footprint, the traces of which remain in our adult life... I have such a memory when my class teacher called me by my family name instead of my first name and shouted: \"is your bus not leaving yet, S\u00e1rai?!\" This humiliation made me think that it was better not to speak, because if I said anything I would be laughed at. It left a deep impression on me. Similar situations can cause you to he-whisper when you speak, to groan (you can't find the words), or maybe your palms sweat when you have to speak in front of an audience, or you are simply nervous when you have to face something alone. I thought 10 years ago that a communication training course would help me overcome these problems. <\/span><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=\"2_5\u2033 _builder_version=\"3.25\u2033 custom_padding=\"|||\" custom_padding__hover=\"|||\"][et_pb_image src=\"https:\/\/titanillaeideh.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/communication-report-2.jpg\" _builder_version=\"4.0.6\u2033][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row module_class=\" et_pb_row_fullwidth\" _builder_version=\"3.29.3\u2033 width=\"89%\" width_tablet=\"80%\" width_phone=\"\" width_last_edited=\"on|desktop\" max_width=\"89%\" max_width_tablet=\"80%\" max_width_phone=\"\" max_width_last_edited=\"on|desktop\"][et_pb_column type=\"4_4\u2033 _builder_version=\"3.25\u2033 custom_padding=\"|||\" custom_padding__hover=\"|||\"][et_pb_text _builder_version=\"4.0.6\u2033 header_font=\"||||||||\" header_2_font=\"||||||||\" header_2_font_size_tablet=\"\" header_2_font_size_phone=\"30px\" header_2_font_size_last_edited=\"on|phone\"]

I now know that all professional training must be preceded by personal development, self-reflection and self-awareness.<\/span><\/p>\n

Everyone is afraid of change, and navigating unfamiliar waters can be scary, but it is the only REAL chance we have to communicate in a way that is self-identical and peaceful.<\/span><\/p>\n

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In short: what is the main importance of communication?<\/span><\/h3>\n

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It is simply that it gives us the opportunity to make our lives better. Human relations and relationships are realised through communication, which is the exchange of information.<\/p>\n

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The importance of communication from a scientific perspective<\/span><\/p>\n

Books in all quantities<\/span><\/h3>\n

My curiosity never let me rest, I began to analyse, to dive deep into human thoughts, attitudes and why, and I dug deeper and deeper into the mysteries. For almost 10 years I have been devouring scientific books on human behaviour, such as Dr David Hawkins, Susan Forward, Bert Hellinger, Dan Millman, Marshall Rosenberg... I draw the essence of their scientific research, draw the conclusions and then, with a pinch of intuition, develop my communication from them.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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Trainings and trainers<\/span><\/h3>\n

The next treasure I found was the non-violent communication training, a wonderful journey to myself and thereby connecting with others. The trainer and my relationships seemed to remind me that it is not enough to understand the other, to empathize with the other's situation, but that I must be patient to receive. What is acceptance? There are times when the human heart is locked up in a lock, in a shell, when it would rather cover its ears, not wanting to hear, see or feel, but would rather flee. It is then that silence is important, not what I want to say, but the fact that we are sitting next to each other, creating a feeling of security. I trust the other, accept the situation and, slowly, the closed heart can open. In such cases, storytelling can also be a good way to heal.<\/p>\n

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When is communication good\/helpful and when is it harmful?<\/span><\/h2>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row column_structure=\"2_5,3_5\u2033 module_class=\" et_pb_row_fullwidth\" _builder_version=\"3.25\u2033 width=\"89%\" width_tablet=\"80%\" width_phone=\"\" width_last_edited=\"on|desktop\" max_width=\"89%\" max_width_tablet=\"80%\" max_width_phone=\"\" max_width_last_edited=\"on|desktop\" custom_padding=\"27px|0px|0|0px|false|false\" make_fullwidth=\"on\"][et_pb_column type=\"2_5\u2033 _builder_version=\"3.25\u2033 custom_padding=\"|||\" custom_padding__hover=\"|||\"][et_pb_image src=\"https:\/\/titanillaeideh.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/kommunik\u00e1ci\u00f3-jelent\u0151s\u00e9ge-3.jpg\" _builder_version=\"4.0.6\u2033 custom_margin=\"40px||||false|false\"][\/et_pb_image][\/et_pb_column][et_pb_column type=\"3_5\u2033 _builder_version=\"3.29.3\u2033][et_pb_text _builder_version=\"4.0.6\u2033]

Stepping out of our old gut reaction to the<\/span> consciously connecting, tuning in to the other's feelings and needs, understanding and accepting the other's point of view <\/b>- this<\/span> supportive communication. Anything that doesn't work that way - as I'll tell you about - is harmful.<\/span><\/p>\n

As \"fate\" would have it, I was able to experience different \"roles\", which helped me to have supportive communication with my own children, family and relationships. And the journey is not over yet, I am still learning.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

As an educator, I learned what education and child psychology is about in general. Then I found my way into adult society, where I encountered reality when, as a bounty hunter, as an hr, I slipped in and out of the pitfalls of human communication because of my hot-headedness. Then coaching taught me a sense of patience, listening, tuning in to the other, the result of which was meaningful attention.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row module_class=\" et_pb_row_fullwidth\" _builder_version=\"3.29.3\u2033 width=\"89%\" width_tablet=\"80%\" width_phone=\"\" width_last_edited=\"on|desktop\" max_width=\"89%\" max_width_tablet=\"80%\" max_width_phone=\"\" max_width_last_edited=\"on|desktop\" custom_padding=\"27px|0px|0|0px|false|false\"][et_pb_column type=\"4_4\u2033 _builder_version=\"3.29.3\u2033][et_pb_text _builder_version=\u201d4.0.6\u2033]

I was able to use the coaching questions with my children quite well, they started to realize who they really are, we learned trust and honesty together. Then life threw me further into bigger tasks when I founded an HR community where I got hot and cold, communication conflicts developed.That's when I felt the need to learn non-violent communication in practice.<\/span><\/p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row module_class=\" et_pb_row_fullwidth\" _builder_version=\"3.25\u2033 width=\"89%\" width_tablet=\"80%\" width_phone=\"\" width_last_edited=\"on|desktop\" max_width=\"89%\" max_width_tablet=\"80%\" max_width_phone=\"\" max_width_last_edited=\"on|desktop\" custom_margin=\"44px|auto||auto||\" custom_padding=\"0|0px|27px|0px|false|false\" make_fullwidth=\"on\"][et_pb_column type=\"4_4\u2033 _builder_version=\"3.25\u2033 custom_padding=\"|||\" custom_padding__hover=\"|||\"][et_pb_text _builder_version=\"4.0.6\u2033 header_font=\"||||||||\" header_2_font=\"||||||||\" custom_margin=\"||19px|||\" header_2_font_size_tablet=\"\" header_2_font_size_phone=\"30px\" header_2_font_size_last_edited=\"on|phone\"]

Characteristics and after-effects of supportive and harmful parent-child communication<\/span><\/h2>[\/et_pb_text][et_pb_text _builder_version=\"4.0.6\u2033 custom_padding=\"||0px|||\"]

The parent <\/span>supportive feedback<\/b>e.g. nodding, smiling shapes and shapes further communication: it can move you forward, encourage you, and thus strengthen your child's self-esteem and self-confidence. However, as research by Em\u0151ke Bagdy shows, communication ultimately affects our child's social relationships, even hindering them if there is opposition, criticism or misunderstanding from the environment. Besides, the use of mass communication reinforces further disadvantages in the area of communication, where the conversation is one-way, without even the possibility of 'feedback'.<\/span><\/p>\n

Harmful communication is something I think everyone has experienced as a child - either in the family or at school, or even in kindergarten.<\/p>\n

Do they sound familiar?<\/span><\/p>\n